Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.
Many single persons want to marry, yet they lack the spiritual maturity, character, knowledge and
outward preparations necessary to enter into biblical marriage. Below are some suggestions from my
reading and thinking on this subject. While these suggestions are hopefully derived from biblically directed
wisdom, you may find that there are legitimate exceptions in your case. However, don't "study
arguments" to free yourself from truly biblical principles. Marriage is the most serious binding contract
that you’ll enter during this life, so abandon haste.
Links to various resources dealing with Marriage, Courtship, and Family
Summary of "Premarital Texts" Section
- Before marriage you must be completely satisfied in your relationship with God. When you are
content to remain single, then a spouse can take a proper place in your desires.
- Don't spend too much time planning the qualities of your future spouse. You are primarily
responsible to ensure that you possess good qualities for marriage. Pray to become a better Christian
man or woman. Seek to develop the character, the discipline, the knowledge and the spiritual
strength commanded in the Bible. Learn your purpose in God's world, and desire to fulfill your role
as a man or a woman.
- Besides being of the opposite sex, there are only two essential qualities to look for in a spouse: First,
you must marry a true Christian. Look for a person with a living relationship with God as evidenced
by God's life-transforming work. Look for growth in godliness, knowledge; look for increasing
love for God, His Word and His people. Second, you must marry a humble person who will submit
all disagreements to the authority of God's Word. Because men and women are sinners, it is essential
that both are willing and experienced to find and apply principles from the Bible to daily life.